Look at the title of this article. Admit the truth: when you first read it, you remembered a time when your child decided that your break time was the last thing she wanted to do. Crying ensues, pouts occur, and your break time ends.
However, giving yourself a break can help your child on many levels.
The first thought you must consider is that quality time always outweighs the amount of time you spend with your child. Your child will remember the huffs and puffs you let go whenever you are around your child because you want free time to read your book or chow down on that chocolate bar tucked away in your drawer. Now, although the huffs and puffs are an healthy emotional release, the action may lessen the child’s perception of your affection for her.
Now, let’s change the scenario: your parents decided to take care of the child for the night. You read your entire favorite book, because honestly, you’re working on mom time right now. Furthermore, you know that chocolate bar previously mentioned would already be gone in this scenario. You laugh, you cry, you sigh. You decide the night’s tasks, after you do the dishes and laundry, of course.
Then, arrival day comes, and you welcome your babies with arms wide open. You give tons of smiles and kisses, and your child is constantly reminded that you want to be around her. Furthermore, because your mind has had a chance to run freely, you actually have the patience to hear for the next hour about that caterpillar your child found what running through the mud, getting her new shirt dirty.
Every mom wants to always be happy for her child. She wants to always be where she needs to be when her child needs her. However, reality has a different plan. You need a break, and more than just time on the toilet. You need a moment when your child is distracted.
What are some ways that would distract your child? Try these tips:
1. Have a Bedtime Story Read. You might consider MP3s play or animations from Amazon.com may offer some Mommy free time. Another solution would be to have your child watch a storyteller read a children’s book right in the comfort of your own home at Fairytale.care.
2. Create Playdates with Other Exhausted Mothers. Sometimes, a mom would be willing to sacrifice one free night a month to gain three more. Take advantage of moms who are crying out for a person to team up with on a regular basis at PlayDatePlanet.com.
3. Place 20 Toys on a Safe Surface, and Include 5 New Toys. If you child is a toddler or above, you could place many toys on the floor, plus 5 new ones, either by trading with your neighbors or going to your local toy store. Then, allow your child to go on an adventure. After 5 minutes of playing with her, simply sit back in your chair and let your child fill her imagination with everything in front of her.
Mothers’ time with children is widely thought to be unique and irreplaceable, because they are purportedly more sensitive to children’s needs and more selfless in caring for offspring. The ideology implicitly suggests that children’s time with mothers is more important than time spent with any other adult (Blair-Loy, 2003; Hays, 1996; Liss, Schiffrin, Mackintosh, Miles-McLean, & Erchull, 2013).