I happen to follow the Scary Mommy Facebook page as many articles that they share are quite thought-provoking. However, many are political which I am not going to be going into at all. There was one article that was titled Thanks For Your Concern, But My Fat Ass Is Fine which was about how fat shamers online pretend to be concerned about the health of people that are overweight and obese. They make snide comments about their weight and act as if they are truly concerned. However, what they are really doing is shaming the individual for being overweight or obese.
Fat shaming is not a new thing by any means. This has been going on for years, and even underweight people are shamed for not having enough weight. This means body shaming has not gotten better and in many ways, it has gotten worse thanks to the internet.
Of course, I chimed in and talked about how my weight loss journey started as of last January as I have lost 60 lbs, and I am 20 lbs away from my goal. And I had mentioned as well that as of last September, I had noticed that people, in general, were kinder to me after I had lost 40 lbs. Customer service was more receptive, people held doors open for me, and strangers said hello as well. I was still 40 lbs overweight and that is when I learned that even if you are ‘acceptably overweight’ then you are worthy of being nice to, but they don’t want to know a thing from you if you are obese – which is so sad. And even while being ignored at a higher weight, I was still fat shamed silently just by that alone.
And you know the story. Severe and unmanaged clinical depression mixed with situational depression is a killer and caused me to just want to give up. Once things were finally taken care of, 4 months later was when I was able to get my shit together and then I was serious about this weight loss journey. Anyone with an ounce of empathy would understand that. But not this particular sanctimommy who basically told me that I had no excuse to be a fat slob even though she didn’t say it in those words as she decided to comment on my thread that was relevant to that article. Why not go and read the exchange between me and her and you will see why I had the need to blog about this:
It didn’t matter to her that I was dealing with a serious mental illness, and it didn’t matter to her that I was beyond burned out. She still thought I was disgusting and out of control. And if that really were the case then I would have found excuses not to lose weight at all even after things were resolved and the stress was lifted. Talk about one hell of a sanctimommy who has zero empathy and thinks that she is perfect since she was so ‘in control’ even after dealing with her hardship. Wow, ain’t she so perfect.
Not. And, funny how I had that encounter with her since my next show on the Expressive Mom Show is about unbelievable things that sanctimommies had said. Too bad this show was already recorded before this happened because my encounter happened today whereas the show was recorded yesterday. That is too bad but I can certainly mention it in the future!
Here is The Expressive Mom podcast episodes about the unbelievable things that sanctimommies have said to other moms if you want to have a listen!