Making mom friends, whether in real life or online is no different from high school. If you are lucky you will make one true good friend who will always be there for you and have your back- no matter what. You are lucky if you make one good friend who will never judge you. She won’t judge you for what you may have done in your past which doesn’t define who you are today. However, the majority of these so-called friends are just that, so-called fair-weather friends. They may appear to be your friends and appear to have your back, but when it suits them, they will back-stab you so hard you will not even feel the knife in your back, at first anyway.
I connected with a mom on Instagram early last year, who had a lot in common with me. She has a child with autism and did a great job complimenting what a great job I have done. She encouraged me when I was down. We spoke on the phone, we texted, we constantly were in contact. She was there for me, and I was there for her. I was hoping to meet her in person one day, but since our lives are busy we didn’t know when to make that happen.
Recently she was having a hard time, and I was too. I was stressed about something, and she decided to remove me from her life. Just like that. She unfriended me and removed any trace of me on social media. However, the fact that she cut me out like that instead of coming to me and telling me what the issue was- I didn’t even bother approaching her to ask her why. She didn’t deserve for me to ask. In fact I blocked her from all of my platforms, and since she didn’t have the decency to tell me what her issue was, I want no contact with her again. That’s right. You know who you are if you are reading this. Stay away from me since you did this.
The more I think about it, there were red flags. She constantly talked about others and dwelled on those who had wronged her- over and over again. If she was talking about them, I can only imagine what she says about me and about others who she befriended for her own benefit. That is exactly what she did. I came into her life at a convenient time, and played me along by acting like a friend. But when she didn’t want me in her life anymore for whatever reason, that is when she tossed me out. And that is fine because she cannot ever come back crawling to me.
Unfortunately, whatever the issue was will be unresolved but I really do wish her well. I can’t have people like that in my life. I have no patience and time for fair-weather friends like her. So my take on friendships after you become a mom is that high school is no different.