Dabota Lawson brings out an important message. If you do not have kids, never give advice that is unsolicited to parents. You don’t know a thing about parenting and besides, parents have their own way of parenting that suits them best. Do you have any idea of what it is like for parents on a daily basis? If you don’t have kids you don’t have a clue. And babysitting a niece or nephew for a few hours even if it is daily does not give you an idea of what real parenting entails.
You have to have your own kids to be able to get it. Your needs end up going on the back burner because you are tending to your kids’ needs as well as taking care of other family responsibilities. You have to take care of running errands, paying the bills, doing chores, and working if the mom is working. And for SAHMs who don’t work do not deserve judgment for that either.
If you don’t have kids, you have no idea what is like to run on empty because your kids were up in the night which interrupted your sleep. Then you don’t have the time to sleep because you have to them to school or you have to tend to them during the day if they were sick in the night. Then you have the other responsibilities to deal with on little sleep. That is just one example of parenting stress and it is simply the tip of the iceberg.
Then you have to deal with behaviors, picky eating, and emotional issues that come to the surface from raising kids. Then you have to deal with battling with teachers and making sure your kids have the best education, especially if they require an IEP. Parents are tired, and they don’t have the freedom that you do. They don’t have disposable income the way that you do. They also don’t have the patience to deal with those like you who judge parents on their parenting because you think it is unacceptable.
If you traded places with the parents you judge for just one day, you will quickly realize how out of line you were. And don’t get me started on you judging parents that have kids with special needs as they have it much harder than parents who only have typically developing kids. But either way, never judge parents. You don’t have a clue what their struggles are about.
Actress Dabota Lawson has advised those who don’t have kids but give parenting advice to desist from that and respect how people raise their own children. According to her, people should learn to respect the decision of some parents on how they raise their own kids and stop giving […]