The worst-case scenarios happen when parents of young kids look forward to their days when their kids outgrow difficult stages. That sounds like a dream. However, at the same time, kids grow into teenagers before they grow into adults. And teenagers are believed to be a nightmare. Some parents may even think back to when they were rebellious teens that stressed their parents out.
For instance, if parents gave them a curfew of midnight but they kept coming back home at 2 am instead while their parents were waiting up for them worried-sick – that is how they envision their future. They may also think that it is a sure thing to happen since karma will catch up with them when the time comes.
However, not all teenagers are rebellious and they are not all nightmares to raise. The trick is to allow them to exercise their independence with limits meaning to allow them to have their freedom but with expectations placed upon them. This means making compromises with them as well and respect the fact that they are growing into their own individuals and need time and energy to go and explore. If parents allow teens to experience independence and freedom with expectations placed upon them, of course – then there is less of a chance that the teens will become rebellious.
As long as they are respected, then they will respect their parents. That is what it really boils down to. Of course, you will have teens who are naturally rebellious and can be true troublemakers. However, most older kids will show their parents respect and not turn out to be complete nightmares as long as they are happy with the compromises they can make with their parents. It comes down to respect and not repressing them. Because if these kids feel stifled, then they will rebel and turn into nightmares!
The dire warnings about the nightmare teens start when your child hits the age of 10. Other parents – and for some unaccountable reason, even non-parents – smile knowingly and, with an air of superior awareness, utter words guaranteed to make any parent-of-a-tween uneasy: ‘you just watch out when she gets into her teens’ or ‘wait ‘til he’s 15’.